Into each life there’ll come a time when you will have something if not everything figured out. If you’re retired, you’ve probably reached a point in your life where you do have it all figured out. You may have figured out how many hours of sleep you need to be recharged. You may have figured out what portion size of a meal is enough to give you strength. And you may have figured out how much money is sufficient to support your means, and live comfortably for the rest of your days. However, sometimes when it comes to figuring out people, life or even some things about ourselves, we are just stumped. Sometimes, here and there, we just can not figure some things out. In regards to people, sometimes they turn out to be completely different than who you thought they would be, from the looks of things. This is why you should never judge a book by its cover. When it comes to others, when we hear them speak, sometimes they do not sound like what we thought, based on our preconceived notions. Conversely, when we find out what some people do for a living, we’re befuddled. When we do figure that out, we sometimes become a representative of our true selves in their presence, to mask who we really are, thus selling out our true selves. This may be the reason why some people do not want others to know what their profession is – to allow you to be your true self in their presence. Nevertheless, on the whole, what makes us want to have others figured out? Do we want to know what makes them tick? Or, do we want to know if people are who they appear to be? Notwithstanding, there is something inside of us that makes us yearn for how others operate. Yet, there are some things that still escape us about ourselves. Moreover, when life throws us on the back of the bike and hurries us off into the distance, sometimes we react out of our true character, breakdown or simply get mad. Even so, we can not always figure everything out. However, in this theme, some of the reasons for these things and some ways to dispel these tendencies will be displayed, and afterwards, you may have a better handle on the facts of the matter.
Sometimes when we meet someone with a different pedigree than ours, we do not know how to connect, gel or relate to them. Sometimes when we meet someone from a certain place, different from where we come from, we do not know their values, traditions or beliefs. Sometimes we think if we know some things about someone beforehand, only then will we be able to click with them. However, when you are sure of yourself as an individual, then you don’t care about someone having a different pedigree than yours or even where they’re from. Nevertheless, a sound and true approach to figuring out others is by simply giving them a chance. Give them a chance to show you what they’re really capable of. There is some truth in the saying, actions speak louder than words. When we see others on a face to face basis, their actions sometimes can sink in deeper than what they say to us. When you’re interacting and talking to others, it sometimes helps to look a person in the eye, as we can get a truer depiction of them, because we are our most authentic selves with others eyes on us. We as humans can not mask our emotions, feelings or selves, only for so long, before in seconds we break character or give our true selves away, and people can see the real us, when we’re in face view.
Whether we choose to figure out others or just let them be, we may also may want to take a look at own selves in the mirror. Sometimes we overlook ourselves when zoning in on others, and we sometimes have yet to figure ourselves out completely. Conversely, in figuring out ourselves, it is good to sometimes acknowledge our own growth, and see the progress we’ve made. At the same time, we may also want to find ways where we can be better people, and plug away at that. A major part of having ourselves figured out is being cognizant of what kind of vibe and energy that we’re giving off to others. Do we seem calm, cool and collected, or do we seem fearful and anxious? Do we appear to be decisive and relaxed? If we’re not able to look someone in the eye when we talk to them, it may reflect confusion, uncertainty in us or that something is troubling us. If you don’t have all the answers at this time in your life, that is okay. As long as you have course of action or plan for figuring it out, then you’re on the right track. However, to seem like you’ve got it all figured out, be confident in yourself, in what you’re saying, and what you’re doing. Instead of asking for advice, speak as though you’re just mentioning something that you are contemplating, but afterward insinuate a decision or solution that you have in mind, and state it in the affirmative, as if you already know it’ll work out. The keys here in knowing yourself and having yourself figured out is, having confidence in how you walk, how you talk, and the way you move about. As with some other things in life, take your time, and you may yield a better outcome.
As it relates to this thing called life, while we’re living it, we just can not be certain of what is going to come our way. There’ll be some things that come into our lives that we’ll be able to figure out in the snap of a finger. On the other hand, there’ll be some things that’ll happen to us that we won’t figure out and understand father along the way, if not in the end. However, I can say firsthand, when life gets tough, we get tougher. Try not to spend too much time trying to figure life out as it happens to you. Moreover, try to bear the brunt of life, and trust the process.
We may not also ever figure out why a particular person came into our lives, but instead just maybe give them a chance. Also, we should not try to figure out all of our own idiosyncrasies or weaknesses, but instead suppress those things and be strong. Simply put, try to accept that which comes your way and see the positive in it.
